Eating in secret and then hiding your food? Hoping that nobody finds out what you’ve just eaten?
This is… SHAME 😖
Shame is feeling terrible about who you are after what you’ve done out of fear. Fear of judgment, maybe rejection…
As Brene Brown says, ‘shame is the fear of disconnection.’
And our biological instinct to protect ourselves from that potential disconnection is… to HIDE.
Hide the evidence.
Nobody will ever know, and everything is okay.. right?
Because even after the food is hidden, do you feel okay?
Odds are, you probably feel worse.
The problem with feeling ashamed about what you ate and then hiding the food is that it doesn’t take care of the shame. It just puts a bandaid over it.
If you want to deal with your shame.. here are 2 helpful ways to do that:
ONE: Rewrite the story.
1️⃣Get curious about what you are making and what you’ve just done, to mean
2️⃣Challenge that – is that true?
3️⃣Write a more empowering story for yourself
TWO: get vulnerable.
Challenge yourself to start eating the foods that trigger shame in front of everybody rather than in secret.
As always, notice and then get curious without judgment!