6.13.24 The Perspective Shift // Do you really want to believe that?

Ryann Nicole The Perspective Shift

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The Perspective Shift

Welcome to The Perspective Shift! A weekly newsletter by Ryann Nicole designed to help you see food, your body, and healthy living in a whole new light.

Hi friends!!

Real talk: Since having my daughter Charlotte, and knowing I wasn’t going to stop working, I’ve struggled with the belief that I’m a bad mom if my daughter goes to daycare. 😰 So, what happened as I held onto this belief? I tried to juggle work and her. When I was with her, I was thinking about work. When I was working, I was thinking about her. I was never present, always scattered, exhausted, and yep, pretty irritable. 

I’m not going to say it made me a “bad mom” because yikes, that’s harsh, but it definitely didn’t make me the best mom I know I can be. Then I thought, what if she went to daycare and I wasn’t a bad mom? What if daycare actually made me a great mom because I could keep work at work, and when I was with her, I could really be with her

She’s been at daycare for 2 weeks now. The first week was tough, but every day since has been challenging that old belief. I see how well she’s doing there and how much more present I am at work and at home. And that got me thinking…


What you believe about yourself is what you will make true about yourself.

🍽 If you believe that you can’t eat out without it turning into a binge, you make this true by ‘saving calories’ before going out. Then, you show up to dinner overly hungry and BAM—out-of-control eating happens.

💔 If you believe you are unlovable in your body, you make this true by avoiding dates, social situations, and dismissing love from friends and family. By doing this, you never give yourself a chance to experience love in your current body.

🍪 If you believe you can’t have cookies in the house without eating the whole box, you make this true by trying to avoid the cookies, then spiraling into f-it mode and eating the entire box when they’re around.

It’s really a self-fulfilling prophecy, isn’t it?

So… is the problem that you really can’t go out to eat without losing control? That you are really unlovable at this body size? That you really can’t have cookies in the house?

…OR is the problem 👉 that you believe those things to be true? So much so, that you make them true. 


What beliefs do you have that aren’t helping you live the life you want? To be the person you want to be? 


What’s one belief you currently have that you don’t want to have anymore? What do you need to stop believing that? Do that.


I don’t want to believe I can’t have cookies in the house without eating the entire box anymore. I need to show myself that I CAN have cookies, by practicing with them! That’s what I’m working on this week.

When you’re finished reflecting on the above, consider sharing your thoughts in the free support group (or Circle if you’re a client of mine)!! This is completely optional but does hold you accountable and adds a powerful layer of connection and encouragement.

Use the template below to post in our group:


🧠 SOMETHING FOR YOU TO THINK ABOUT: What did this make you think about? Write it here!

🖊 REFLECTIONS: What came up for you as you got honest and reflected?

🎯 CHALLENGING YOURSELF: How are you challenging yourself this week?


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See ya next week!

xx, Ryann Nicole
Licensed Therapist (LPC), Certified Intuitive Eating Counselor, Certified Nutritionist

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Ryann is a licensed therapist and virtual wellness coach who has assisted individuals worldwide in establishing a healthier relationship with food and their bodies.

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