6.20.24 The Perspective Shift // If you do anything compulsively, ask why.

Ryann Nicole The Perspective Shift

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The Perspective Shift

Welcome to The Perspective Shift! A weekly newsletter by Ryann Nicole designed to help you see food, your body, and healthy living in a whole new light.

Ohhh my friend, I have to admit something to you. I have not been practicing what I preach, and in getting honest about this, I hope it can help you reflect on where you might relate. 🤔

I really struggle with compulsively checking social media. Any down moment I have 💥 BAM 💥 Instagram or TikTok is open. When I put Charlotte to bed at night and all my tasks are done for the day and again without even a thought, social media is open, and I scroll and scroll and scroll. 😵‍💫 It makes me feel terrible, and it’s been something I’ve been trying to will myself to stop doing for years. Yep, years.

I cannot tell you how many times I’ve told myself, “This week will be different—I will not scroll!” I do great for a day, maybe two, and then I’m right back to scrolling for hours 📲 (wow I hate admitting this but I need to.)

This is very similar to how the diet/binge cycle used to go for me. So, I am familiar with this pattern (I mean I teach this pattern for goodness sake!!) but that doesn’t make it any easier to break out of. 🥵

As I’ve been back in therapy and doing more unpacking since having a baby (because oh wow, that brought up a lot more than I thought it would), it’s had me really going back to the foundational basics.

And that got me thinking…


We don’t just do things for the sake of doing them; there is always a reason behind our actions. If you find yourself compulsively spending, eating, scrolling, etc. 👉 start asking yourself why.

If your immediate thought is, “I don’t know,” it might be because vulnerability makes you uncomfortable. This is understandable—vulnerability can be uncomfortable. But if you were to guess why you do these things, what would you say? What feeling are you trying to escape from? 

Identifying that feeling is an important first step. To address compulsive behavior without relying solely on willpower (which is why just trying to control yourself often doesn’t work), we need to unpack the cause of that feeling. 📦

Work on that. Heal that. 👆 That’s how you change, in a nutshell.


What do you do compulsively when things slow down? Get quiet? Get uncomfortable? 

Why do you feel that way? Where does that feeling come from? What makes that feeling so bad, scary, or horrible?


Rather than trying not to do something, let’s try TO DO something. Once a day, set a timer for 2 minutes and just sit with yourself. 🕑 Don’t do anything. Just sit. Practice leaning into the discomfort rather than running from it.

🙋🏼‍♀️ I am doing this with you too!! 

When you’re finished reflecting on the above, consider sharing your thoughts in the free support group (or Circle if you’re a client of mine)!! This is completely optional but does hold you accountable and adds a powerful layer of connection and encouragement.

Use the template below to post in our group:


🧠 SOMETHING FOR YOU TO THINK ABOUT: What did this make you think about? Write it here!

🖊 REFLECTIONS: What came up for you as you got honest and reflected?

🎯 CHALLENGING YOURSELF: How are you challenging yourself this week?


If You Need To Lose Weight For Your Health, Read This!

If you’re trying to lose weight for health, yet it is keeping you bingeing, here is what I want you to try! 

“I’ll work on my relationship with food after I lose weight.” 

This is keeping you stuck. Let’s unpack why that is. 

If you binge when you’re anxious, the problem is not your anxiety…

We’ve discussed that mood dysregualtion is a maintaining mechanism for binge eating, but is the emotion really the problem? 

See ya next week!

xx, Ryann Nicole
Licensed Therapist (LPC), Certified Intuitive Eating Counselor, Certified Nutritionist

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Ryann is a licensed therapist and virtual wellness coach who has assisted individuals worldwide in establishing a healthier relationship with food and their bodies.

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