September 6, 2020
I’m a recovered binge eater who changed the story from something that happened to me to something that happened for me. Now, I’m a licensed therapist teaching you to do the same.
My mission? To help you ditch food stress and live your life with mental peace and freedom every single day!
We’ve all been there – late at night, lying in bed, frantically Googling, “How do I stop comparing myself to others?” The comparison trap is real, and it can be utterly exhausting. But fear not, because I’ve got a four-step plan that will help you break free from this self-destructive habit once and for all!
The comparison trap is like a sneaky habit we all have sometimes. It’s when we keep looking at others and thinking we should be just like them to be happy. This blog will talk about how this can make us feel bad about ourselves and give tips on how to stop comparing and feel better about our own journey. Whether you’re comparing in your life, work, or online, this blog will help you feel good about yourself.
First things first, pull up a picture of the person you’re comparing yourself to. Whether it’s their body, their dreamy house, or their envy-inducing lifestyle, get a visual representation on your phone screen. Now, let’s dive into the next step.
Take a moment to reflect. Ask yourself, “What would it take for ME to have that body, that house, that lifestyle, etc., that I am envious of?” If you’ve been following them for a while, you probably know a lot about their life. Consider the hours it would take for you to spend in the gym, the sacrifices you would need to make, and the effort you would need put in. It’s easy to say “I want that” without considering what it would take for YOU to get that. It’s not all sunshine and rainbows.
Time to get it down in writing. Physically list out all the steps it would take for you to get where they are. Writing it out makes it more tangible and allows you to see it from a different perspective. Be thorough; don’t hold back.
Now, it’s decision time. Ask yourself, “Would I be happy doing all of this to become what they are or have what they have?” Be brutally honest with yourself. Sometimes, we might admire a destination but not enjoy the journey. If the answer is no, you’re comparing apples to oranges. And that’s perfectly okay!
Maybe that lifestyle, that body, or that achievement isn’t what would make you happy. Realize that you have your own path to happiness, and it might not look like theirs – and that’s more than okay. In fact, it’s fantastic! You’ve identified what truly matters to you.
So next time you find yourself scrolling through Instagram, comparing yourself to someone with a “perfect” life, pause and remember this process. You might just find that their life isn’t what would make you the happiest, and that’s a beautiful realization to embrace. Comparing yourself to others? Not anymore.
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For many years, Glennon Doyle denied her own discontent. Then, while speaking at a conference, she looked at a woman across the room and fell instantly in love. Three words flooded her mind: There She Is. At first, Glennon assumed these words came to her from on high. But she soon realized they had come to her from within. This was her own voice—the one she had buried beneath decades of numbing addictions, cultural conditioning, and institutional allegiances. This was the voice of the girl she had been before the world told her who to be. Glennon decided to quit abandoning herself and to instead abandon the world’s expectations of her. She quit being good so she could be free. She quit pleasing and started living.
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Ryann is a licensed therapist and virtual wellness coach who has assisted individuals worldwide in establishing a healthier relationship with food and their bodies.
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