Episode Transcript

The Comparison Struggle

I used to really struggle with comparison. Spending hours on social media, going down the rabbit hole of one profile to another, feeling terrible about myself. I know I’m not the only one who feels this way.

Why Comparison is a Problem Today

Let’s talk briefly about why comparison is such a problem today. It’s not just magazine models anymore; we’re comparing ourselves to our peers. Social media exacerbates the issue by showing only the best parts of people’s lives, making it hard to separate reality from the highlight reel.

The Shift in Perspective

I came across a quote by Charles A Montesquieu that changed my perspective: “If we only wanted to be happy, it would be easy, but we want to be happier than other people, which is almost always difficult since we think they’re happier than they are.”

The Four-Step Method

Today, I’m sharing my four-step foolproof method for hopping off the comparison train once and for all.

1. Identify the Target: Pull up a picture of the person you’re comparing yourself to. Choose one for this exercise. Look at it before moving on.
2. Understand Their Effort: Ask yourself what it took for this person to have the life, body, house, etc., that you envy. Write down all the things they do to achieve it.
3. Write It Out: Physically write out all the steps you think it took for this person to get where they are. Seeing it on paper helps separate it from the pretty picture.
4. Would I Be Happy Doing This? Circle everything on the list that you believe you would truly be happy doing. If the answer is yes, great! If it’s no, realize that maybe that life isn’t for you, and that’s okay.

Conclusion

Remember, comparison is all about your mindset. Deleting or muting won’t solve the deeper problem. By taking a step back, seeing people for more than their posts, and asking if you’d be happy doing what they do, you can break through the comparison trap. Give it a try, it might just change your perspective.

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