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Our thoughts can make our lives harder than it needs to be. There’s this pattern of thinking that we call all-or-nothing thinking. This is when we think in absolutes or extremes, black or white, good or bad, yes or no. Believing it is either one or the other, never accepting the idea it could be both
It makes life harder than it needs to be because it makes our emotions more extreme than they need to be. Today we are going to chat about 5 statements you can adopt to help pull you out of the extremes and get you to live in the grey.
01. YOU CAN BE OKAY AND ALSO NEED HELP.
When we allow ourselves to recognize asking for help doesn't mean we are not okay, we
- We will no longer feel overwhelming frustration when we feel like we can't do it on our own
- We will no longer feel guilt or shame around asking for help
- We will not wait until things are really bad to ask for help
02. YOU CAN ACCEPT YOUR BODY THE WAY IT IS AND STILL WANT TO CHANGE IT.
When we allow ourselves to live in the middle of accepting our body and wanting to change our body
- We can get to a place of comfort in the discomfort we are feeling with our bodies
- We can stop feeling like we need to body shame to change our bodies
- We can be kind to our bodies and still be open to change
- We can find joy on days when we are unhappy with our bodies
03. YOU CAN OVEREAT AND TREAT YOUR BODY WITH RESPECT.
When we allow ourselves to believe that overeating doesn't mean we have failed and need to restart a diet, we
- Take away the feeling that overeating is a failure
- We feel less shame when we overeat
- We recover faster post overeating
- We do not allow overeating to ruin our day or week
04. YOU CAN LOVE YOUR BODY AND STILL BE UNCOMFORTABLE IN IT
When you recognize that you can love your body and still have days where you can be uncomfortable in it, it allows you to treat your body more kindly in all moments of life.
05. YOU CAN EAT DESSERT EVERY DAY AND STILL BE HEALTHY
Recognizing you can eat dessert, the cookie, the chips, or whatever and still be healthy
- You will no longer feel guilty for eating less nutritious food
- You will no longer feel “good” when you eat a salad and “bad” when you eat a cookie
- What you eat will not trigger your emotions
BONUS PRACTICE – CHECK IN WITH YOURSELF
Where does your most rigid black-and-white thinking occur? Is it with your body? Is it with your food? Is it with your lifestyle? Is it with your relationships? Is it with your emotions? Is it all of the above?
