019. Three Reasons Why Weight Loss Focused Goals FAIL & What To Focus On Instead

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Ryann Nicole

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Hey, it’s Ryan, your host from Coffee Talks Therapy Podcast. Today, let’s dive into a topic close to my heart: why weight loss-specific goals may not lead to long-term success and what you should focus on instead. This is a game-changer, so grab your coffee and let’s chat.

Addressing Weight Loss Goals

Weight loss goals often come with a set end date and can create a yo-yo effect. Let’s explore why making weight loss your primary focus might not be the best approach and what to prioritize instead.

The Problem with Weight Loss Goals

  1. Momentary Change:
    • Weight loss goals offer a momentary change. Self-control and willpower help you reach the goal, but what happens afterward? Celebrations lead to panic about maintaining the weight loss.
    • Shifting to a lifestyle focus allows you to make choices based on how you feel, making it a seamless part of your daily life.
  2. At Odds with Long-Term Progress:
    • Weight loss goals can create a yo-yo effect. Reaching the goal weight often results in a struggle to sustain restraint and motivation.
    • A lifestyle-focused approach considers progress beyond just appearance, prioritizing how you feel and incorporating sustainable habits.
  3. Postponing Happiness:
    • Weight loss goals may create an “either-or” conflict, linking body image and behaviors to your happiness.
    • Falling in love with the process, enjoying the journey, and prioritizing a lifestyle you love allows happiness in the present, not just in achieving a specific weight.

The Power of Habits Over Willpower

  1. Momentary Change vs. Long-Term Progress:
    • Willpower affects the moment, requiring extra energy. Habits, on the other hand, influence your whole life without draining your energy.
    • Choosing a lifestyle that aligns with your values and preferences ensures long-term progress without relying solely on willpower.
  2. Why Habits Outweigh Willpower:
    • Willpower requires extra energy and can be exhausting, especially when faced with various challenges.
    • Habits become ingrained in your daily routine, requiring no additional energy. They set the foundation for sustainable progress.

Changing Your Goals for Lasting Results

  1. Identify Appearance Goals:
    • Name the weight loss goal you’ve been holding onto.
  2. Describe the Person You Believe Would Achieve This Goal:
    • Be specific about the behaviors, actions, and choices associated with this person.
  3. Evaluate Happiness in Adopting Those Behaviors:
    • Ask yourself if adopting those behaviors would genuinely make you happy.
    • If yes, proceed to the next step. If no, consider reassessing your goals.
  4. List Five Steps to Align with Your Ideal Self:
    • Identify small, actionable steps to align yourself with the person you described in step two.
    • Make these steps achievable and enjoyable to create a sustainable lifestyle.

Shifting from a focus on weight loss goals to a lifestyle-oriented approach is a transformative journey. Embrace habits that align with your values, prioritize feeling good, and watch how your weight naturally falls into place. Remember, the journey should be as fulfilling as the destination.

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Ryann Nicole

Licensed Therapist, Certified Nutritionist, and Virtual Wellness Coach

Ryann is a licensed therapist and virtual wellness coach who has assisted individuals worldwide in establishing a healthier relationship with food and their bodies.

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