044. How To Become More Confident: Insider Tips from a Licensed Therapist

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Ryann Nicole

Episode Transcript

The Confidence Conundrum

Many people reach out, wanting to stop binge eating while losing weight, believing weight loss equals confidence. However, this mindset is a trap. True confidence isn’t tied to body size or perfection; it’s about accepting yourself, imperfections and all. The idea that confidence magically appears with weight loss is a limiting belief that keeps you stuck.

Reflecting on old photos, many realize they once wished to be as “fat” as when they first thought they were “skinny.” This exposes the flawed belief that weight correlates with confidence. Those confident in their bodies aren’t so because they love every inch; they’re comfortable with what they’re not. Confidence is about embracing imperfections and understanding there’s more to you than your appearance.

Challenge the Confidence Charade

Radical acceptance plays a key role. Accepting aspects you don’t love, like cellulite or stretch marks, without letting them define you, is crucial. Rejecting these realities only fuels misery. Embrace radical acceptance, acknowledging what you can’t change today and focusing on self-love despite imperfections.

Tips for Boosting Confidence

  1. Change What You Consume: Alter social media references to escape unrealistic comparisons. Mute or unfollow accounts that trigger negative feelings.
  2. Surround Yourself with Confidence: Misery attracts misery; confidence attracts confidence. Engage with people who exude self-assurance and positivity.
  3. Watch Your Thoughts: Challenge negative thoughts about your body. Notice, reflect, and replace them with positive affirmations. It’s about forming new, empowering thought pathways.
  4. Challenge Yourself: Growth fosters confidence. Set small challenges, gradually increasing difficulty. Achieving these boosts your belief in your capabilities.
  5. Let Go of the Need to Be Liked: Not everyone will like you, and that’s okay. Focus on whether you like yourself. Prioritize self-approval over seeking external validation.

Confidence isn’t a reward for achieving a certain body size. It’s about embracing yourself, flaws included, and being comfortable with what you’re not. Challenge the belief that weight loss equals confidence. Accept yourself today, and watch true confidence blossom. You’ve got this—be bold, be brave, be you! Join me on Instagram or the Coffee Talks Wellness Facebook community for more support. If you loved this episode, leave a review! Talk to you next Wednesday!

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Ryann Nicole

Licensed Therapist, Certified Nutritionist, and Virtual Wellness Coach

Ryann is a licensed therapist and virtual wellness coach who has assisted individuals worldwide in establishing a healthier relationship with food and their bodies.

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