Guess who’s officially one month into this postpartum adventure? Yup, it’s me, and let me tell you, it’s been a wild ride! This past month has been like the ultimate combo of challenging and amazing – seriously, I’ve never experienced anything quite like it.

Month One Postpartum Reflection

As the initial haze of sleepless nights, endless diaper changes, and heartwarming baby coos settles, I find myself standing at the threshold of a pivotal milestone – the end of the first month postpartum. This moment not only marks the survival of sleep deprivation and the conquering of newfound parenting challenges but also the initiation of a profound healing process. From the tender moments of bonding with my newborn to the unexpected challenges that tested my resilience, this journey has been a tapestry of highs and lows. Let’s navigate through the healing milestones, the self-discoveries, and the triumphs that have defined this transformative chapter.

Healing

We were released from the hospital 36 hours after Charlotte’s birth. I left with a second-degree tear and a very sore bottom. For the first two weeks, I spent most of my time on the glider, snuggling with Charlotte or resting while family took care of her. I alternated between Tylenol and Advil to keep the pain at bay, which really only lasted the first 3-4 days, and then I was fine—sore, but fine. The bleeding stopped for me around 3 weeks, and my stitches healed around 3.5 weeks.

As for walks, I didn’t do anything during the first week. By the second week, I was taking 10-20 minute walks, and by the third week, I could enjoy a nice 30+ minute stroll. To be honest, it wasn’t the pain that prevented me from walking longer; it was my weak bladder that I couldn’t hold 😅. I won’t lie; the first week was tough, but after that, it’s like I forgot I had just pushed a baby out of me. Wild!

Must-Have Postpartum Healing Items: Peri bottle, Tucks Pads, Dermoplast, Fridamom Ice Pads, Maxipads of all shapes and sizes, and of course, Fridamom Diapers (Note: Don’t bring any of these to the hospital; they will have everything you need. Save these for when you get home!)

Emotions

The first two weeks were an emotional rollercoaster, and I was not prepared. EVERYTHING made me cry. It wasn’t that I was sad all the time; I was just feeling so many emotions! I am grateful that I didn’t experience postpartum depression or anxiety, but I did have slight baby blues in the beginning. Fear not, though, because after the two-week mark, emotional stabilization kicked in, and I am starting to feel like myself again.

Not Breastfeeding

Before having Charlotte, I decided not to breastfeed, so I was prepared to dry up my milk when it came in, but I had no idea what that would entail. My milk came in hot and spicy three days postpartum. I woke up, and my breasts were extremely engorged and painful. However, because I wasn’t breastfeeding, I couldn’t release the milk, or my body would just keep making it. So, I put on the tightest sports bra I owned and applied cold cabbage leaves to my breasts. Day 1 felt like battling the flu – shaky, chills, nausea – the works! Day 2 was more manageable. By Day 3, the pain bid adieu, and my girls were on the road to normalcy. 

Formula

Currently riding the Bobbi formula train, but do I love it? The jury’s still out. Charlotte is very gassy and seemingly constipated, so we might switch to a new formula soon. Formula exploration, here we come!

Sleeping

Nighttime involves a tag team with the hubby – he takes the early shift (8p-2a), and I take the wee hours (2a onward). One of us bunks in the nursery with Charlotte while the other snags the bed in our room for some sweet, uninterrupted Z’s, and it’s really been working for us. This way, we each get at least 5 uninterrupted hours of sleep because Charlotte has yet to sleep more than 2.5 hours at a time. Her days and nights are totally confused. She sleeps like an angel during the day and turns into a totally different human at night. However, the Taking Cara Babies course is our sleep superhero in this nocturnal saga.

Body

It’s been a rollercoaster of feels, swinging from ‘this body is incredible!’ moments to ‘wait, my body looks so different’ surprises. I’m fully embracing radical acceptance – not swooning over every change, but acknowledging each shift with a nod of respect. I mean, this body just pulled off a miracle! Now, snagging a bunch of clothes that actually fit was a game-changer, eliminating the stress of having nothing to wear. While I’d love to say I don’t feel any grief about my pre-pregnancy body, that wouldn’t be honest. It’s a classic case of the ups and downs in recovery, and I’m using my skills to steer clear of old behaviors.

Baby Stats

One Month Weight: 8 pounds and 10 ounces

One Month Height: 22 inches

She Is Currently Loving: being held, Tommee Tippee Pacifiers, and baths

She Is Currently NOT Loving: diaper changes

She Is Sleeping: 18-20ish hours a day, and is waking up every 2.5hrs at night

She Is Eating: 1-2oz of formula every 2 hours

She Is Wearing Clothing Size: Newborn

She Is Wearing Diaper Size: 0

Bonus fun fact – her belly button healed in just 10 days!

Most Used Month One Items 

​​Here are the items we have been loving and using the most in month one.

1. Doona Car Seat & Stroller

The Doona Stroller has become my trusty sidekick in the first month of parenthood. Its seamless transition from car seat to stroller is nothing short of magic, making outings and errands a breeze. No more fumbling with complicated mechanisms – just a swift transformation that keeps me and the little one on the move without missing a beat.

2. SNOO

Enter the SNOO, our sleep savior and certified magic cradle. This innovative bassinet has woven its enchantment, lulling our little one into peaceful slumber with its responsive technology. The SNOO’s ability to detect and soothe has turned those potentially sleepless nights into a dreamy haven for both baby and exhausted parents.

3. Taking Cara Babies Course

The Taking Cara Babies Course has been our guiding light through the maze of baby sleep mysteries. From establishing healthy sleep habits to deciphering the cues that signal naptime, this course has empowered us with the knowledge to navigate the intricate world of infant sleep. Taking Cara Babies is more than a course; it’s our secret weapon for a well-rested household.

4. Baby Brezza Formula Pro Maker and Sterilizer

The Baby Brezza Formula Pro Maker and Sterilizer has elevated formula feeding to a whole new level of convenience. Its one-touch formula preparation and sterilization feature have streamlined the feeding process, ensuring that each bottle is ready with the perfect temperature and consistency. A must-have for time-strapped parents seeking efficiency without compromising on quality.

5. Dr. Brown Bottles

Dr. Brown Bottles have emerged as our go-to choice for feeding. Designed with a vent system to reduce colic, spit-up, and gas, these bottles provide a comforting and smooth feeding experience for our little one. Easy to clean and assemble, they have seamlessly integrated into our feeding routine, promoting both comfort and nutritional satisfaction.

6. Tommee Tippee Pacifier

The Tommee Tippee Pacifier has become the pacifying hero in our parenting saga. Its orthodontic design and silky texture have made it a comforting source for our baby’s non-nutritive sucking needs. Whether it’s bedtime or a fussy moment, this pacifier has a calming presence, making it a staple in our collection of baby essentials.

7. Ollie Swaddle

Wrapped in the cozy embrace of the Ollie Swaddle, our baby has found solace and security during sleep. Its custom fit and moisture-wicking fabric create the perfect conditions for a snug and comfortable sleep environment. The Ollie Swaddle has transformed bedtime into a ritual of warmth and tranquility, ensuring our little one feels safe and sound.

8. Muslin Burp Cloths

Muslin Burp Cloths have proven to be the unsung heroes in our daily routine. Their soft, absorbent fabric tackles spills and spit-ups with grace, keeping both baby and parent clean and dry. Compact and versatile, these cloths have earned their spot as essential companions during feeding sessions and playtime.

9. NoseFrida

The NoseFrida has been our ally in the battle against nasal congestion (and I recommend getting it beforehand because I was running to CVS in the middle of the night 5 days postpartum to get this). This ingenious nasal aspirator’s simple design and effective suction power help clear tiny nostrils, providing much-needed relief for our little one. A game-changer during cold seasons, the NoseFrida ensures that baby breathes easy and sleeps peacefully.

10. Black and White Cards

Incorporating black and white cards into our baby’s visual environment has sparked fascination and curiosity. These high-contrast cards are designed to captivate a newborn’s developing eyesight, promoting early visual stimulation. They’ve become a playful addition to our bonding moments, sparking joy and engagement during awake times.

Our Favorites: Black and White Book, Stroller Mobile, Tummy Time Book, and loose cards

11. UPPAbaby Vista V2 Stroller – Declan

The UPPABABY Vista Stroller has seamlessly blended style with functionality, providing a smooth and stylish ride for our little one. Its versatile design accommodates growth, ensuring longevity as our baby transitions from infancy to toddlerhood. With features like ample storage and easy maneuverability, this stroller has become our preferred choice for urban adventures and family outings.

12. Skip Hop Wipe Clean Changing Pad – Oat (Dupe for Keekaroo)

Say goodbye to the stress of messy diaper changes with the Skip Hop Wipe Clean Changing Pad in Oat. This game-changing pad not only provides a comfortable surface for your little one but is also incredibly easy to clean, making diaper changes a breeze. A cost-effective alternative to the renowned Keekaroo, it combines functionality with a neutral Oat shade, seamlessly blending into any nursery aesthetic.

13. DaVinci Suzy Recliner and Swivel Glider (We got it in Vanilla)

Transform your nursery into a cozy haven with the DaVinci Suzy Recliner and Swivel Glider in Vanilla, offering the perfect blend of comfort and style reminiscent of the coveted Pottery Barn designs. This recliner and swivel glider duo provides a soothing motion for both you and your little one. Its vanilla hue adds a touch of elegance to the nursery while ensuring that late-night feedings and cuddle sessions are accompanied by both comfort and aesthetic appeal.

14. Indi Diaper Backpack from Dagne Dover

Meet the epitome of style and functionality – the Indi Diaper Backpack, a chic neoprene baby backpack that channels the sophistication of Dagne Dover. This backpack seamlessly marries fashion with practicality, featuring ample storage, insulated pockets, and a modern design. Bid farewell to traditional diaper bags and embrace this sleek backpack that complements your on-the-go lifestyle while catering to all your baby’s needs.

15. Hatch Rest+ Baby & Kids Sound Machine | 2nd Gen

Create the perfect sleep environment for your little one with the Hatch Rest+ Baby & Kids Sound Machine – a second-generation marvel. This all-in-one device offers a night light, sound machine, and a time-to-rise feature, providing a customizable and calming atmosphere for your baby. Say goodbye to sleepless nights and welcome a serene ambiance that aids in a restful sleep routine.

16. Boppy Original Nursing Support

The Boppy Original Nursing Support in Pink Garden is not just a feeding essential; it’s a multitasking marvel for both feeding and tummy time. Designed with comfort and versatility in mind, this nursing pillow provides the perfect support for breastfeeding sessions. Its whimsical Pink Garden pattern adds a delightful touch, making it a beloved accessory in your daily routine for both you and your baby.

17. LALABU Dad Shirt

Experience the magic of the LALABU Dad Shirt – a game-changer that instantly soothes and calms. This ingenious shirt not only promotes bonding but works like a charm during the infamous witching hour. Whether it’s naptime or a fussy moment, the Dad Shirt provides a cozy and secure environment, creating an instant haven for Charlotte. It’s more than a shirt; it’s a superhero cape in your parenting arsenal.

Other Items We’re Regularly Using

• Huggies Little Snugglers Diapers – Newborn (liked these way more than Pampers)
• Huggies Natural Care Sensitive Wipes
• Diaper Genie Complete Pail with Built-In Odor Controlling
• Shynerk Baby Car Camera
• Baby Nail Trimmer Electric Baby Nail File
• Baby Thermometer
• Angelcare Baby Bath Support
• Yoofoss Baby Bath Towel
• Fitted Crib Sheet
• Munchkin® Sponge™ Bottle Brush, 2 Pack, Grey

Ryann’s Tips for The First Month:

1. Release the Need for Control: One of the first lessons I quickly learned is that babies operate on their own schedule. Trying to control every aspect can lead to unnecessary stress. Embrace the unpredictability of parenthood, and understand that flexibility is your new best friend. Let go of rigid expectations and go with the flow. This mindset shift will help you navigate the challenges with greater ease.
2. Embrace Rest as a Priority: In the midst of diaper changes, feeding schedules, and sleepless nights, it’s crucial to prioritize rest. While the temptation to catch up on household chores or dive back into your pre-baby workout routine may be strong, remember that this time is fleeting. Your body needs time to heal, and your baby craves the comfort of your presence. Snuggle up, take naps when you can, and allow yourself the luxury of rest. A well-rested parent is better equipped to handle the demands of caring for a newborn.
3. Communicate Openly: Parenting is a team effort, and it’s okay to ask for help. Whether you’re feeling overwhelmed, exhausted, or just in need of a listening ear, don’t hesitate to communicate with your partner, family, or friends. Share your thoughts and emotions openly, as this not only strengthens your support system but also fosters a deeper connection with those around you. Remember, you’re not alone on this journey, and seeking support is a sign of strength.
4. Dress for Comfort and Confidence: Your body has undergone incredible changes, and finding clothes that fit your postpartum shape can make a world of difference. Invest in a few comfortable and stylish postpartum wardrobe essentials that make you feel good about yourself. This simple act of self-care can boost your confidence and contribute to a positive mindset during this transitional period.

As I wrap up this month’s reflection, I can’t help but marvel at the resilience, joy, and quirks that parenthood brings. Here’s to many more months of discovery, growth, and, of course, the delightful surprises Charlotte has in store for us. Cheers to the journey! 🥂👶

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