Three Things You Need to Know About Being More Confident from a Licensed Therapist


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I used to be as sure of myself as a cat in a dog park. Making decisions? Forget about it. I’d usually let others take the lead. Speaking up in group conversations? Nah, I’d rather just nod along. People-pleaser extraordinaire right here. But you know what? That all changed when I figured out that I’d been looking at confidence completely wrong this whole time.

My old way of thinking was like, “What if they don’t like me? What if I mess up?” It’s the classic worry cycle. But now, I’ve got a new perspective. I’m all about asking myself, “How do I feel about what I’m doing? What do I know to be true?” It’s like switching from black and white to technicolor. Confidence, my friends, it’s not some mystical potion you’re searching for. It’s not out there; it’s inside you, waiting to be woken up.

Confidence Is A Skill

See, confidence isn’t something you buy off a shelf, it’s all about your mindset. It’s not about what kind of car you drive, how many followers you have on social media, or whether your closet is bursting with designer clothes. Nope, it’s deeper than that. It’s how you see yourself, how you talk to yourself when no one’s listening, and how you handle the curveballs life tosses your way.

Three Things To Know About Confidence

And here’s the sweetest thing about confidence – it’s not a finite resource. You don’t run out of it or use it up. It’s like a muscle that gets stronger the more you use it. That means you can sprinkle a little confidence on anything in your life. How cool is that?

Now, here are three nuggets of wisdom I’ve picked up on this journey of understanding confidence:

1. Ownership Alert! Just because someone has something doesn’t mean they’re confident in it. Take parenthood, for example. Having a kid doesn’t automatically make you the superhero of confident parenting. Same goes for having a successful business, a rockin’ bod, or a partner in crime. Confidence isn’t about what you have; it’s about how you feel about what you have.

2. More, More, More Isn’t the Answer! Here’s a reality check – achieving more doesn’t magically pump up your confidence. Having a whole soccer team of kids won’t make you a parenting pro. That promotion at work won’t transform you into the office guru. Losing weight isn’t a one-way ticket to self-love city, and marriage won’t automatically make you the relationship whisperer. If you’re lacking confidence, adding more stuff to your plate isn’t the solution. The real work is all about finding out why you’re feeling that lack of confidence in the first place.

3. Feeling Good Inside! So, here’s the secret sauce – confidence is a feeling, not some fixed trait you’re born with. It’s believing in yourself, trusting your abilities, and feeling comfy in your own skin. Confidence doesn’t shy away from making mistakes because it knows that’s how you learn and grow. It comes from a place where you’re good with who you are. So, to dial up your confidence, start getting cozy with the uncomfortable stuff. Those folks who are confident in their bodies? They’re not sweating other people’s opinions about their weight. Those who’ve got food freedom confidence? They’re not losing sleep over a little weight gain. And the gym warriors who strut their stuff with confidence? They’re not scared to mess up now and then.

In the end, confidence is like a secret weapon you’ve had all along. It’s inside you, ready to help you conquer the world, one small step at a time. So get out there, try new things, and let your confidence grow, ’cause remember, it’s been there all along, just waiting for its time to shine.

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Ryann Nicole

Licensed Therapist, Certified Nutritionist, and Virtual Wellness Coach

Ryann is a licensed therapist and virtual wellness coach who has assisted individuals worldwide in establishing a healthier relationship with food and their bodies.

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