March 4, 2024
I’m a recovered binge eater who changed the story from something that happened to me to something that happened for me. Now, I’m a licensed therapist teaching you to do the same.
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So you’ve heard about this whole “intuitive eating” thing, and maybe you’re a little curious. Maybe you’ve tried every diet out there, counting calories, cutting carbs, fasting—if it’s been a trend, you’ve probably done it. And yet, somehow, you still feel stuck. You’re still thinking about food all the time, still feeling guilty if you have a cookie, still wondering why you can’t just find that magical balance everyone talks about.
And then, someone mentions intuitive eating, and you’re like, “Wait, I can actually trust my body around food? Is that even possible?” Well, let’s talk about it. I’ll break down what intuitive eating is, how it works, and how you can get started without feeling like you’re jumping off a cliff.
So, What Exactly Is Intuitive Eating?
Let’s start with the basics. Intuitive eating is about getting back to listening to your body. It’s about eating when you’re hungry, stopping when you’re full, and finding satisfaction in your meals. It’s like, remember when you were a kid, and you ate when you were hungry, stopped when you were full, and didn’t think twice about it? That’s kind of what we’re aiming for here—getting back to that.
But it’s not just about hunger and fullness—it’s about ditching the diet rules that have been running your life. You know, those rules like “No carbs after 7 PM” or “Salads are good, pasta is bad.” Intuitive eating says, “Hey, what if we stopped labeling foods as ‘good’ or ‘bad’ and just ate what feels right?” It’s about reconnecting with what your body actually needs and letting go of all the noise that diet culture has drilled into your head.
What Intuitive Eating Is Not
Before we dive in, let’s clear up a couple of things. Intuitive eating is not a diet. There’s no meal plan, no calorie goals, no restriction. And it’s definitely not about eating whatever you want, whenever you want, without any thought. It’s about being present with your food, really tuning in to what you want and need.
It’s also not a quick fix for weight loss. In fact, one of the core principles of intuitive eating is rejecting the diet mentality—meaning, letting go of the obsession with weight loss and focusing on how you feel instead. I know, that can sound scary if you’ve spent years chasing that number on the scale, but trust me, it’s a game-changer when you start focusing on how food makes you feel rather than just what it does to your weight.
How to Get Started with Intuitive Eating
Okay, so how do you actually do this intuitive eating thing? It’s not like you wake up one morning and your body just magically knows what to do after years of dieting. It’s a process, and it takes some time to rewire your brain. But here’s where you can start:
1. Ditch the Food Rules
First things first: it’s time to say goodbye to those diet rules. I know, easier said than done, right? But this is a big one. Take a look at the rules you’ve been living by—no bread, no sugar, only eat at certain times of the day. Ask yourself: Are these rules really serving me? Most likely, they’re just adding stress and guilt around eating. Try challenging those rules, one by one. Like, what happens if you eat a bagel for breakfast instead of that low-carb smoothie? Spoiler: nothing terrible.
2. Learn to Recognize Hunger and Fullness Cues
Next up, let’s talk about listening to your body. After years of dieting, it’s easy to lose touch with what real hunger and fullness feel like. Start paying attention to the signals your body is sending you. Are you eating because you’re actually hungry, or because the clock says it’s lunchtime?
Try using a hunger-fullness scale, where 1 is “starving” and 10 is “Thanksgiving-level stuffed.” Aim to eat when you’re around a 3 or 4—when you’re feeling hungry but not ravenous. And try to stop when you’re around a 6 or 7—satisfied, but not uncomfortable. It takes practice, but the more you do it, the better you’ll get at tuning in to what your body needs.
3. Give Yourself Unconditional Permission to Eat
This one might sound wild, but hear me out: give yourself permission to eat all foods. Yep, even the ones you’ve been avoiding for years. Ice cream, bread, chips—whatever it is, it’s no longer off-limits. When you take away the restrictions, those foods lose their power over you. Because if you know you can have a cookie anytime, it’s a lot easier to stop after one or two rather than eating the whole box because you’re afraid you won’t let yourself have them again.
4. Practice Eating Without Distraction
I know, we all love a good Netflix binge while eating dinner, but part of intuitive eating is being present with your food. Try putting away your phone, turning off the TV, and just being with your meal. Notice the flavors, the textures, the way the food makes you feel. It might sound a little cheesy, but the more you get into the habit of being mindful with your meals, the easier it becomes to recognize when you’re satisfied.
5. Challenge the Food Police
We all have that little voice in our heads that says, “You shouldn’t eat that,” or “You’ve already had enough.” That’s the food police, and it’s not invited to the intuitive eating party. When that voice pipes up, try challenging it. Ask yourself, Is this really true? Does eating a piece of cake mean I’ve failed, or is that just a story I’ve been telling myself for years?
This is about shifting the narrative. It’s about reminding yourself that food is just food. It’s not a moral issue, and eating certain things doesn’t make you “good” or “bad.”
Be Patient with Yourself
Here’s the thing—intuitive eating isn’t a quick fix. It’s not something you master in a week, or even a month. It’s about slowly unlearning all the diet rules you’ve picked up over the years and learning to trust yourself again. And yeah, there might be times when you overeat or feel like you’re getting it “wrong.” But that’s okay. It’s all part of the process.
Remember, the goal of intuitive eating is to find peace with food—to be able to enjoy your meals without guilt, to eat when you’re hungry, and to stop when you’re full, without all the mental gymnastics. It’s about rediscovering the joy in eating and learning to trust that your body knows what it needs.
Final Thoughts: Why Intuitive Eating Is Worth It
I know it can feel daunting to let go of the diet mentality, especially when it’s been such a big part of your life. But intuitive eating? It’s like taking a deep breath after holding it in for way too long. It’s freeing. It’s a chance to step off the rollercoaster of restriction and guilt and just live.
So, if you’re ready to try something new, if you’re tired of feeling like food is a constant battle, give intuitive eating a shot. It’s not about getting it perfect; it’s about making peace with food, one bite at a time. And who knows? Maybe you’ll find that you actually enjoy eating again, without all the rules. And that, my friend, is worth a whole lot more than any diet could ever give you.
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Ryann is a licensed therapist and virtual wellness coach who has assisted individuals worldwide in establishing a healthier relationship with food and their bodies.
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